The art of fingering is one that can never be overstated. In fact, a lot of women have admitted that this is one of the surest way for them to achieve [email protected]$m.
This means a man has no excuse to be terrible at using his hands.
The finger is not a dick
Fingering is not simply about sticking your fingers in and out, especially when it comes to stimulating the clitoris. The kind of “fingering” that actually brings women to [email protected]$m is rubbing of the outside area around the clit. In fact, that’s how most women masturbate, because it’s what actually feels the best.
Take your time
Lots of guys go straight for it, the way they wish women would go straight for their dick. But for most women, the more anticipation that’s built up before touching the [email protected]!na, the more aroused they become — and the more pleasure she’ll feel once you do start to touch her down there. Kisses on the lips, neck, shoulders and arms usually do the trick, as well as gently, slowly stroking her stomach, legs and thighs.
Spread the wetness
Before touching the clit directly, most women say they prefer you to spread the wetness from the inside of their [email protected]!na. Get it on your finger, and “paint it” onto the rest of the lips and clit. Using this natural lube makes touching feel smoother, and allows your fingertips to glide and caress instead of pulling or catching on the sensitive skin. Keep in mind, you’ll likely have to go back for seconds and thirds of wetness in order to get it well-coated.
The most commonly appreciated “first touch” of the clit is with a feather-light touch. Keep your touch delicate and light, so that your fingertip isn’t even moving the skin, just gliding over it — not pushing or pulling.
Watch for her reactions
Many women from the study reported that the guys who are best at fingering are the ones who start off gently and then try different moves, while watching and asking for feedback. They also ask questions that don’t put their lady in a tough spot. For example, questions like “‘Is that good?” or “Are you close?” are not the direction you want to go, since you’re setting her up to have to hurt your feelings if the answer is no. Instead, ask questions like “Faster or slower?” or “Higher or lower?” The answers to these questions will actually give you useful information to make the pleasure better – not hurt your ego.